Where or to who can I sell my self shot photos?

Even if you're very hot, self-shot photos have very little resale value, if any, and finding customers willing to pay more than a token amount will take a lot of your precious time. It's simply a matter of supply and demand- the market is flooded with self-shot and amateur photos. You'll just have to be satisfied with giving them away.

If you want to make money, you'll need to have creative high-quality photographs taken by a gifted and experienced professional erotic photographer.